If you have a problem with an individual, talk to the individual. Nobody needs more general rules, regulations and laws to solve individual problems. When you take global action to solve an individual problem, you are setting yourself up for failure because nobody is going to remember all your rules. Those who do remember all your rules will likely do so just for the sake of finding loopholes.
As you learn to love yourself, you will also begin to feel worthy and brave to let others see and appreciate the wonderful loving person that is inside you.
Such a basic human thing that any human should be able to give another. It costs nothing so everyone can afford to give free hugs. I would be grateful if a teacher gave my kid a hug if they were having a bad day. The best part about giving a hug is that you usually get one back — for free!
What do you crave more, to feel loved or to just be respected? I believe that people who don’t feel loved in an intimate relationship unfortunately often try to settle for respect.
What is a good man anyway? A very common problem when searching for your ideal partner is that most people haven’t gone through the process of figuring out what they want. While this is the purpose of dating, most people go on a date, and see how they feel. There is nothing wrong with that approach but if you never learn from the experience when it doesn’t work out, you will very likely just keep attracting the same kind of people and making the same kinds of mistakes. One thing you can do to improve your chances of finding someone … Continue reading
There was so much conflict in the world this year (2015). At an early age, I was taught to use my words instead of aggression. What if people all around the world started talking instead of fighting and trying to blow each other up? It still wouldn’t help unless we learn to really listen to what others have to say. In this brilliant video entitled “It’s not about the nail”, can you see past the hilarious interaction and really get as a man from her perspective and as a woman from his perspective? … Continue reading
HELLO! Do you say “Hello!” to strangers when walking down the street? You can even be fancy and say “Good morning!” or “Good evening!”. Time and time again, I have seen the unfriendliest looking face turn warm and friendly using that one simple almost magical word. It’s like “please” and “thank you” Try it and be amazed. When you get a strange look or people just ignore you, smile and know that you have given them something to think about… perhaps a glimmer of hope that the world need not be a hard and cruel place. It may not feel comfortable at first. … Continue reading
Everyone has a need to feel loved but some people find it difficult to connect with others. It doesn’t help that in North American culture, women will often expect that men will ask them out. It may sound counter intuitive but the first step to finding the love of your life is to stop focusing on succeeding and focus instead on learning to fail really well. As long as there isn’t ONE special woman for whom you care more about than anything else in the world, here is my recommendation… Go out each day for 14 consecutive days to public … Continue reading
Want to improve your relationship with your spouse, children, employer, employees, customers, strangers or even yourself? It’s not complicated. Stop focusing on yourself! Start seeing things from their perspective. The following are the cornerstone interpersonal skills to master that can change your life include: Attentiveness: Making eye contact, listening without interrupting and accepting nonjudgementally the other person’s inherent world. Acknowledgement, Appreciation: Noticing the others efforts to be helpful or nice and commenting on them positively. Empathy: Recognizing other’s circumstances, imagening what they must be like, acknowledging in a respectful manner how they must feel. Think about someone with whom you are having … Continue reading